My relationship started a little over 5 years ago with a text message that read Hey my name is ” “and I heard you were looking for a friend.
About me then in 2016: divorced, mother of 4. At the time 3 teenage children from the marriage, an 8 month child out of a non commited relationship im raising fully as a single mother.
5 years ago I wasnt looking for anything to build a relationship on so meeting “friends” at the club or bar was how I got alone time out of my system. It got old quick though so I asked a close friend if she knows of anyone single wanting to hangout. It wasnt long before I received a text message that this blog was created… Hey my name is ” ” and I heard you were looking for a friend.
At the time the message was so cute to me. “Looking for a friend” was exactly what I was looking for. I squeeled, but put the phone down for a couple of minutes to get the excitement out of my system. Finally, I responded with Hi, its good to hear from you. Tell me about yourself. He responded saying that he was black and asked if I’ve ever been with a black man? I guess now I should tell you all that I am a white woman, blonde hair blue eyes white, but yes I tell him I have been with black men, my youngest babys father is black. He says he’s milky way brown and at that moment I realize he’s a ladys man.
He goes on to say hes 30, single father to 3 children and give the ages. I think hes 8 yrs my junior but this is just for fun so whats age matter. We text for the rest of the night discussing kids, life, anything that came to mind. It was nice to have an actual conversation with someone and not the usual WYD or one liners that I had to drag words out of. Our conversation were paragraphs and I loved it. We text for a week through the day and night until I finally ask if I can see him. He said he was waiting for me to ask and we cam up with a time to meet at my place. It was like I’d known him my whole life when I opened the door even though if never met him in person. It was comfortable having sex that first time and the first time I’d felt a connection after sex in awhile.
The next morning he text me early “good morning gorgeous”. My face lit up like a kid on Christmas morning. Wait, am I catching feelings? After our convos that lasted morning til night, and then great sex, yes I am definetly catching feelings. I respond “good morning handsome” and we jump into convo after convo. Hes taking his kids to school, and what activities he has with them that evening. The rest of the week was him with his kids and activities so I send a photo shoot with me in my lingerie. He goes on about wanting to see me and when he can again. We make plans, but his kids activities come up several times. As a mother of 3 older children in activities I understand completely. Being a single parent is tough and its discussed multiple times throughout the next couple of weeks not seeing him again.
Finally, he has a night he can come by. Its late, maybe 1 or 2am, but I’m excited to stay up. Hed been with fraternity brothers and I’m happy he made time. I never thought anything more than his life is challenged being a single father so our time spent is precious.
For weeks we text all day everyday about anything and everything and I saw him once a week when he was out at night. This was the start of a great “friendship”.
When I realized I am the other woman 